Hand me down wedding dress

Q: My mother wants me to wear her dress, but my fiancé wants to get me my own dress. What should I do and how do I tell my mother?

A: I appreciate your honesty and am glad that you decided to write in for some advice! I can imagine how difficult this situation must be for you! I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to do what you want here. It's crucial that you don't make this decision based on anyone else's preference. This is YOUR wedding day, and what you wear for the day is a very personal and precious decision. Do what you think is best for you and not what others think is best (regardless of how close "the others" are to you!) If you decide not to wear your mother's gown, I would suggest that you try to maintain peace somehow. You can borrow something else instead - something less visible perhaps. Maybe her garter, favourite necklace, bracelet, etc. This way she feels involved, yet her involvement is not overpowering.