Casual Wedding

Q: My fiancée has a large family (120) and would like to invite them all to our wedding. Is it unheard of to have finger sandwiches and wedding cake at the church after the ceremony and only inviting a few to enjoy a casual BBQ once pictures are done? My mother says this is unheard of, but I didn't want a big wedding in the first place and would like to relax and enjoy the day with our children and the family after all the big to-do. Am I wrong? Can this be done or would I offend his family?

A: It's so considerate of you to ask this question, and I imagine it's quite a sensitive topic with both sides of your family. To reassure you, this is certainly not uncommon! Many people these days (the majority, in fact!) are opting for finger-food, small functions, and backyard weddings as opposed to traditionally large weddings at banquet halls, etc! You have to realize that regardless of what you decide to do, you can't possibly please everybody! This is your special day, and you have to do what works best for your budget, and your ideal image of your wedding day. You will never be able to make everyone happy, nor should you try to! If finger food is the best thing for you, and it works for yourself and your fiancée, then there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be able to do it!