Destination Wedding Invitations

Q: We are having a "destination" wedding -getting married in the Caribbean - should we send invitations to families and friends - or only to the ones we know will be joining us in the Caribbean - our friends know our plans and most have expressed whether or not they are thinking about joining us - for those not joining us should we send announcements cards upon our return? - we don't want this to look like a wedding gift "grab".

A: With regards to your question, it is a very valid one. I can appreciate your sensitivity to the method of approach, so as not to appear to be asking for gifts! I believe that although you have an indication of who will and will not be attending, it would do no harm to send an invitation to all invited. I think it would be a nice gesture, and perhaps you could include a line indicating that if they have "changed their minds" about attending, they are still most welcome to do so! I also think announcement cards would be a beautiful gesture. It's not necessary, but it would be nice. I have one other suggestion for you....if it is within your budget, you can have a "welcome reception". Seeing as many of your friends and family may not be able to attend the actual wedding and ceremony on the day of your wedding, you can rent out a banquet hall and hire a D.J. for the evening, and have a bit of a party to celebrate with your friends. There's no need to have a meal, or open bar, but the idea of celebrating with them may be a good one, if it is within your budget. You can even hold this event at your home, church, etc...whatever best suits you and is in your budget!