Wedding Planning Etiquette -Our Church or the Future-In-Laws?

Q: I am having a major dilemma regarding the location of our church ceremony. Originally, we were planning a smaller wedding and decided to use my fiance's parents' church. Since that time, our venue has changed and size of the wedding grown considerably. We are inviting 360+ guests to a church that only comfortably will seat 240. Based on the 75% rule, I would expect around 275 to show. Subsequently, I have joined my own church, which is larger, and am considering switching there for both the size and significance of starting our lives together in "our church". The dilemma is that I do not want to hurt my future mother-in-laws' feelings as we've already planned to have the ceremony there. What should I do?

A: This is a great question. I think it's wonderful that you're so sensitive of your future-in-laws' feelings. I must admit that the best thing for you to do at this point in time is to be honest with them. Let them know that you had planned to be married at their church and you adore their church completely. Tell them that it has nothing to do with the church itself, but that the reason you're switching churches is because you want to be able to comfortably accommodate all your guests. It's not as though you're making a selfish switch you're actually making a switch based on necessity.

I'm sure they will understand...just make sure you discuss it with them face to face...that's a much more sensitive and respectable way of approaching this situation.