Same Sex Weddings

Q: I have a bit of a dilemma. I am not a supporter of same sex marriages. In fact, I don't agree with same sex unions at all. However, I was just invited to a same sex wedding, and the person that invited me is a very close co-worker. He's a great guy, but I had no idea he was homosexual, and I was caught off guard by his invitation. What should I do?

A: I can see how this situation can be morally challenging for you. It's certainly not an easy position for you to be in, and I would urge you to assess the situation and refrain from making a quick decision. The first thing you have to remember is that he is your friend and he obviously means something to you on that level. All other details aside, most people would want to attend their friend's wedding. I'm not sure that it would be wise to decide against attending the wedding due to the fact that it is a same sex wedding. That would in a sense, be undermining the friendship. I would suggest that you go to show your support and your friendship. By attending the wedding, you are not stating that you believe in that lifestyle, rather that you believe in your friend, and his happiness. If the opportunity allows you to communicate your thoughts to your friend, let him know that you don't agree with or believe in his lifestyle, but that you still appreciate the friendship and support him on an individual level.